I’ve got a few personal questions for you (if you’re willing to be honest here)
OK Straight to it–
Do you curse at mistakes you make?
Do you talk down to yourself?
Do you use language like, “I suck at this or that” or “I will never be good at this THING”
Hey, I’m all for knowing your individual strengths and weaknesses… but the truth is sometimes we use poor words that keep us stuck and unfulfilled… instead of words that keep us uplifted, strong and empowered.
The language we use is so powerful.
I recently had a client, a very successful financial advisor, tell me during our call, “my general personality is not that exciting.”
Before we even could dive into public speaking strategies and tips, we needed to first dig into his MINDSET.
Self-image is critical in public speaking, especially because speaking is so much about how we feel.
If you’ve identified yourself as “not that exciting” or “a poor student” or “a horrible partner,” then THAT is what you WILL become.
Self-image matters in everything we do.
Here’s ONE way to help you navigate into a higher self-image…
Avoid attaching your identity to the situation…
Here’s an example:
1) Someone could say, “I’m so broke, it’s always one thing after another”
2) or they could say, “I’m not where I want to be yet, but I’m working so hard this year to create multiple streams of income and build wealth.”
There’s a HUGE difference in those two statements.
The language “I am broke” attaches your IDENTITY with your poor cash flow.
Read that ^^^ statement again.
The second statement acknowledges that where you are right now is not where you want to remain, but focuses on what you can do about it.
What you feed your brain = Your Outcome.
…I believe all of the above will help you lead a happier existence.
Seriously, just by doing that?
“The secret is this: To really “live,” that is, to find life reasonably satisfying, you must have an adequate and realistic self-image that you can live with. You must find your self acceptable to “you.” You must have a wholesome self-esteem. You must have a self that you can trust and believe in.” (Wow, powerful right? I wish I could take credit for it… it’s a gem in the book Psycho-cybernetics).
But the bottom line is all of that ^^^ helps you function at your optimum.
As a public speaking and performance coach, one of the ways I get my clients on track with their goals, is to challenge them about what’s POSSIBLE and how to “UP LEVEL” their mindset so the world can fully embrace them, their story and message.
If you’re ready for an in-depth conversation about public speaking and performance (including confidence, storytelling, stage presence and delivery) go ahead and book your complimentary 30 minute call with me.