It’s a question that has five words.
But infinite answers.
How do you love yourself?
That’s one of the best questions someone has ever asked me in my life.
I knew it was a good question as soon as the words hung in the air, like a lingering heat wave down South.
I didn’t have an answer.
No tongue-and-cheek response.
No nervous laugh to shrug it off.
I was quiet.
Good questions often make people pause. That’s because you’ve got to dive into your brain – and dig something out.
(It might feel like an uncomfortable mental extraction.)
I chose silence, then offered a very faint, yet honest response: I don’t know.
The girlfriend who asked me that question years ago was a bit older, a lot wiser and, frankly, much more mature.
I eventually learned the answer for myself.
But it wasn’t overnight.
You could think of it as regular “dates” — with me, myself and I.
Those dates then became more routine, slowly turning into a lifestyle.
What it looked like: treating myself with compassion, loving myself and fueling my body properly.
It also is forgiving myself when I don’t do those things.
I’ve found when I love myself really well, my best self always shows up.
So, I try to love myself a lot.
For me, it’s usually the little things.
Driving with the sun hitting my face and belting out a note.
Soaking in a hot bath with candles around me.
Pushing through a sweaty workout.
Or maybe it’s trying my hand at a new healthy recipe, taking a yoga class or playing like a kid all day in a warm ocean.
Breaking out in a funky dance!
Curling up to a good book on a lazy afternoon on my couch.
A brisk walk.
Ohh, that much needed nap!
A homemade facial with spoonfuls of avocado (yummm).
A relaxing massage.
Living in the moment.
Sometimes, it’s as simple as tapping into a passion:
That’s how I found myself writing this to all of you.